College life is very different from living at home. The transition can be difficult for many students even if they are excited about being at college and are well prepared academically. Parents should be aware of the signs that their child may not be functioning well and may need more support. What are those signs? What questions should you be asking to determine if your child requires some help?
Eight Signs Your Child May Be Struggling in College
1. Always Tired
Determine why your child is tired.
- Is it because they aren’t getting enough sleep?
- Are they mismanaging their time and getting to bed very late?
- Are they too stressed to fall asleep?
- Have they been partying late into the night?
2. Weight Gain or Loss
Find out where, when, and what your child has been eating.
- Are they making unhealthy choices or eating late at night?
- Have they been doing any kind of exercise?
- Are they becoming too concerned with their body image?
3. Missing classes
Identify the reason your child is missing classes.
- Have they been too tired to wake up on time?
- Are they not prepared for the class?
- Did they decide the class is boring and not worth their time?
4. Not Communicating
Determine why you are not hearing from your child.
Are they so busy and engaged in their college life that they aren’t thinking about home?
Could they be avoiding talking to you because things aren’t going well?
Have you established a plan for regular communication with them?
5. Poor Grades
Find out what is causing your child to have poor grades.
- Are they studying and trying their best?
Could the courses be too difficult?
- Does your child prioritize studying and academics, or social life?
- Is your child overwhelmed by college life and unable to focus on academics?
6. Change in Mood
Identify why your child ‘s moods have been noticeably different from what had been true in the past.
- Is there something in the college environment that is causing their mood change?
- Does your child seem happy or unhappy?
- Is your child stressed, anxious, or in control?
7. Social Isolation
Determine why your child has become isolated from other students.
- Does your child feel overwhelmed and need some alone time?
- Has your child decided he or she doesn’t fit in?
- Was there some incident that caused your child to choose isolation?
8. Frequently Sick
Figure out why your child has been sick so often.
- Are they not getting enough sleep?
- Have they been spending time with students who are sick?
- Did they see a doctor on campus for an exam?
- Should they be eating healthier or taking vitamins?
What should a parent do?
If your child is exhibiting a number of the signs listed above, you will want to discover what these signs really mean by speaking with your child to determine if he or she would benefit from additional support.
Many parents find it difficult to get their children to be totally open about what is actually happening at college. If this is your situation, it is important to enlist a trusted adult to have those conversations.
I often serve in that role for parents. As a health coach, I specialize in helping college students manage stress so they can have a successful and enjoyable college experience.
My role is one of support and accountability. I become your student’s cheerleader and mentor –giving you peace of mind knowing your child has someone focusing solely on their health and well being
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