Six Reasons Your Child Should Get To Know Their Professors

The challenges that students are facing as they engage in virtual and socially distanced learning environments are unprecedented. Students are expected to be comfortable working with new technology, and be flexible as new situations develop.

But they’re not the only ones having to adapt. Professors are facing a learning curve as well. Professors want to help, and one of the best ways for students to engage with their professors is to attend their virtual or in-person office hours.

Understandably, students may have some trepidation about meeting with their professor one on one. They may feel like:
• They’re asking for too much extra help
• They’ll look stupid or lazy
• Their professor isn’t interested in helping them outside of the classroom

It’s important to end that stigma, because office hours for college professors are much different than they are in high school, and what your college student may not realize is that professors love meeting with students!

It’s important for your child to know the advantages of making personal appointments with their professors, as they may yield many benefits:

It Shows They Care About The Course

A professor deals with many students each semester, and the ones that reach out for help will stand out. Asking for extra help, questions about the assignment, or anything else related to what they’re learning will show they taking the course seriously. Even a brief check in is evidence that your child is taking one step that many of their peers don’t, and having that face to face will be advantageous throughout the semester.

It Will Make Asking For Help A Lot Easier

There may be a situation in which your child needs clarification about the material or needs to understand the professor’s expectations, and they’ll feel more comfortable if they already have a relationship with the professor. Nobody likes asking for help, but reaching out will be a lot easier if they’ve already established their work ethic to their professor.

It Will Help Your Child Feel Connected and Supported

Particularly during the pandemic, your child may feel disconnected or unmotivated due to the lack of normalcy. Making an appointment with a professor can help to cut back on those anxieties; connecting with someone on a personal level can help put the human aspect back into their learning.

Professors Are a Great Source of Information

A meeting with a professor doesn’t have to be related to the course specifically; professors are a great resource for students who have questions about their future. Professors may be able to answer questions about majors, give advice on what courses to take, and give them tips on how to succeed in their field of study.

Professors Are a Great Networking Tool

In today’s job climate, who your child knows is just as important as what they know. As your child expands their network, professors can help them find on and off campus individuals who may be useful in finding careers or internships. If your child has a positive relationship with their professors, they can work together to find opportunities that pertain to your student’s interests.

Your Child Will Need Letters of Recommendation

As they make the first steps towards applying for internships and jobs, your child will need solid sources that can write them a personal and compelling letter of recommendation; in fact, some jobs specifically require a recommendation letter from an educator using the university’s letterhead. If a professor knows a student personally, they can write a letter that goes beyond the basics and includes personal details. Professors are asked to write many letters, and your student can stand out and make themselves a priority.

A college professor is not your child’s:

• Enemy
• Boss
• High School teacher

Finding a professor that serves as a mentor or friend will be hugely advantageous, and while a student can’t expect to know every professor on that level, it never hurts to reach out. Whether it’s an in depth discussion or just a few quick questions, it’s a chance for them both to have a conversation.

1. Always Tired

Determine why your child is tired.

  • Is it because they aren’t getting enough sleep?
  • Are they mismanaging their time and getting to bed very late? 
  • Are they too stressed to fall asleep? 
  • Have they been partying late into the night?

2. Weight Gain or Loss

Find out where, when, and what your child has been eating. 

  • Are they making unhealthy choices or eating late at night?
  • Have they been doing any kind of exercise? 
  • Are they becoming too concerned with their body image?

3. Missing classes

Identify the reason your child is missing classes.

  • Have they been too tired to wake up on time?
  • Are they not prepared for the class?
  • Did they decide the class is boring and not worth their time? 

4. Not Communicating

Determine why you are not hearing from your child.

Are they so busy and engaged in their college life that they aren’t thinking about home?
​Could they be avoiding talking to you because things aren’t going well? 

​Have you established a plan for regular communication with them?

5. Poor Grades

Find out what is causing your child to have poor grades.

  • Are they studying and trying their best?
    ​Could the courses be too difficult? 
  • ​Does your child prioritize studying and academics, or social life? 
  • ​Is your child overwhelmed by college life and unable to focus on academics?

6. Change in Mood

Identify why your child ‘s moods have been noticeably different from what had been true in the past.

  • Is there something in the college environment that is causing their mood change?
  • ​Does your child seem happy or unhappy?
  • ​Is your child stressed, anxious, or in control?  


7. Social Isolation

Determine why your child has become isolated from other students.

  • Does your child feel overwhelmed and need some alone time?
  • Has your child decided he or she doesn’t fit in?
  • Was there some incident that caused your child to choose isolation?


8. Frequently Sick

Figure out why your child has been sick so often.

  • Are they not getting enough sleep?
  • ​Have they been spending time with students who are sick?
  • ​Did they see a doctor on campus for an exam?
  • ​Should they be eating healthier or taking vitamins?


What should a parent do?

If your child is exhibiting a number of the signs listed above, you will want to discover what these signs really mean by speaking with your child to determine if he or she would benefit from additional support.
Many parents find it difficult to get their children to be totally open about what is actually happening at college. If this is your situation, it is important to enlist a trusted adult to have those conversations.
I often serve in that role for parents. As a health coach, I specialize in helping college students manage stress so they can have a successful and enjoyable college experience.

My role is one of support and accountability. I become your student’s cheerleader and mentor –giving you peace of mind knowing your child has someone focusing solely on their health and well being
To speak with me privately about your son or daughter and explore how I can support you.

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By text or phone at: 203-912-8078

I look forward to speaking with you soon!